So much sh*t bubbles to the surface during wedding planning. Whether you’re the chillest or the most uptight bride-to-be, wedding stress doesn’t discriminate!

Every bride basically wants the same things:

1. To look beautiful

2. To have an awesome time

3. To feel connected to the present moment & the people you love.

The Course is designed to teach IN DEPTH tools for brides, that take some practice to get good at, but here are three things every bride-to-be can start doing NOW:

1. Make a DECISION that you like the way you look. Is it that simple? Yes and no.

Learning to accept or even LOVE the way you look, whether it’s certain parts or the whole package, is a complex process involving your history, family, mental health and the world culture. (Hello $BILLION beauty industry!)

But ONE thing is guaranteed: All coaching, healing and self-improvement starts with a decision. Whether you can change or not, you will NOT feel happy with yourself until you choose to be. Start with this decision and commit to it.

2. Define AWESOME

Have an intentional conversation about what’s important - your top 3 items each. So much stress is caused by lack of clarity and communication around desires, fears, priorities, and expectations. You’re going to come up against tons of opinions about who, what, when, where, why and how much. Once you know what AWESOME means to you, you’ll have a map to guide your direction and choices together.

3. Practice

Think about it: when you learn a new skill - piano, golf, baking - you start off crappy and you practice. In the beginning your pastry dough is terrible. You can’t hit the ball to save your life. This is expected so you keep trying and get better.

Mental health is the same. What do you get anxious about? Who drives you nuts? STRESS is the reason brides say “It all went by in a blur! I don’t even REMEMBER my wedding day!”

Find areas where you need practice and start small. Receive compliments without deflecting. Order the first thing you see on the menu and decide you’ll love it. Say no to invitations, without giving an excuse. If you’ve never been good at receiving attention, setting boundaries, or letting go of control, at first you will suck. But it’ll get better.

Just have a little self-compassion and remember: every new skill takes PRACTICE.

If you or someone you know is getting married, The Course for Brides is the perfect gift! Sample The Course during our launch week special: 4 days of video talks with 25+ cutting-edge coaches & therapists, teaching on anxiety, body image, financial worry, conflict, difficult conversations, boundary setting, control issues… If you are dealing with it, the Course has a teacher for you!

Day 1 of my 39-day self-care challenge

How many days until your wedding?? Are you excited? Nervous?? Stressed out??? Or absolutely fucking ready? Do you GLOW? If you want to, you may want to join this 39-day challenge! It’s absolutely FREE. You can start any time. And if you don’t have 39 days to go before your wedding — CONGRATULATIONS — you need this even more!! Read on for details:

I have decided to start a 39 day challenge: To do one thing everyday for 39 days, in the name of self-care, self-approval and self-celebration! I want people to do it with me. 🥂 Will you??

Okay, WHY am I doing this?

Well, life can throw a lot of shit our way.

Normal stressors, boring and mundane crappy stuff, and also tragedy – personal, political, intimate, and international.

Other times life is great.

Both are temporary.

But they never feel that way, do they!? Like, when things are awesome, and then the awesomeness ends, it feels terrible and shocking, like something’s wrong. Oh, the accumulated YEARS of shame, “what is WRONG with me??” I would wonder. What is WRONG.

And when things are bad, it can feel like the shit will never end.

But it does.

Learning to embrace this emotional roller coaster is a relatively NEW skill for me, in my 39 years. Actually realizing that nothing was wrong, and that feeling both good and bad is RIGHT (hi, and welcome to being Human!)… was a huge, life-changing epiphany for me.

One of the ways I got there was being put on a strict diet of self-approval, self-pleasure, and self-care.

And no, I’m not talking “eat a bucket of ice-cream and spend $-I-don’t-have on retail therapy” self-care (although sometimes those things are ACTUALLY what a person needs, and then they are exactly right!).

I am talking about going through life and asking myself CONSTANTLY what I want; whether I am saying YES to shit I don’t want, NO to stuff I actually need, or whether I’ve even CONSIDERED my desires lately. 🤯😍

It’s as simple as that.

Making a habit of this practice has changed the way the Ups and Downs feel. It has changed the Okay-ness level of when amazing things end, and when sad, horrible, enraging, depressing, stressful, overwhelming things feel like they’ll NEVER end.

✨It has made life much easier.
✨It has made relationships, and money, and deadlines, and *online dating* easier.
✨It has even made Trump easier! (Still working on Ford though.)

And it is Fun. Remember FUN??? Fun is awesome.

So, my gorgeous friends, who is with me? Will anyone join in the fun? The instructions are easy:
✅Everyday ask yourself one or all of the below questions (at the bottom of this post)
✅Everyday do some thing – for a minute or an hour or a day – that fills up your cup
✅Let me know your thing. Here on this post.

Why do it with me? Um, obviously, because things are more FUN when we do them together! REMEMBER FUN????

These are the questions I’m asking these days, and the answers lead to my 39-Day Challenge Action Steps:

🤷🏻‍♀️What would make this enjoyable?
🤷🏼‍♀️Does this feel good?
🤷🏽‍♀️How can I make myself WANT to do this?
🤷🏿‍♀️Do I need a rest?
🤷🏻‍♂️What do I desire today? This week? This year? In life? In my fantasies???
🤷🏾‍♂️Is this a loving choice for me?

LET’S DO THIS! 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

Here are a couple screenshots of me dancing like the dorky Goddess I am, on my instagram post. If you’d like to check out the challenge (and join ANY TIME, for FREE!), check out my account, and search for the hashtag #39daysofselfcare. Post what you’re doing to love and care for yourself with the same # and we will cheer each other on!!